Welcome to the most populated place in the world – Friend Zone. I know that feel when you are friendzoned and I can understand how painful it was.
Don’t worry mate, Be positive and Stay Cool. Just follow this simple rule and stay happy.
Friend Zone Meaning
According to Wikipedia, The friend zone, in popular culture, refers to a platonic relationship wherein one person, most commonly a man, wishes to enter into a romantic or sexual relationship, while the other does not.
a situation in which a friendship exists between two people, one of whom has an unreciprocated romantic or sexual interest in the other.
“I always wind up in the friend zone, watching them pursue other guys”
From Where Did The Word ‘Friend Zone’ Originated?
You must have heard about the word ‘Friend Zone’ numerous times now. You must have also made your own, simple definition for Friend Zone. Today, let us know more about this word. Though Friend Zone can be defined by anyone, yet the truth is, very few people know the real meaning of Friend Zone. I am sure you must have heard about the American television sitcom ‘Friends’. The word ‘Friend Zone’ was used for the first time in the year of 1994 on 3rd November in this American television sitcom ‘Friends’. The name of the episode was ‘The One With The Blackout’. Though the term was first coined in the late 20th century, it became popular in the 21st century, around the year 2010. Now that you know the origin of the word ‘Friend Zone’, read more to know the actual meaning of Friend Zone.
The modern dictionary defines Friend Zone as ‘a situation in which a friendship exists between two people, one of whom has unreciprocated romantic or sexual interest in other’.
To make things easier for you, let me explain you about Friend Zone in a simpler way. Consider X and Y as friends. X makes advances to get romantically or sexually involved with Y. What does Y do? Y doesn’t respond in a positive way to the advances of X but still they remain friends. In this given case, you can say that X is in the friend zone of Y. I assume that now you have got the clear picture of the word ‘Friend Zone’. The definition is pretty simple, but I guess you must have realized the depth of the meaning. Any feeling that isn’t reciprocated hurts. It is for sure an undesirable situation for many of us.
‘Commitment Mismatch’ Type Of Friend Zone
I also want to tell you about another special condition of Friend Zone. This condition can be also named as ‘commitment mismatch’. I would again like to explain you the term by a proper hypothetical situation. Consider X and Y as friends, but they are no ordinary friends because X and Y are sexually involved (like you see in Friends with Benefits movie). Now X wants to get in a committed relationship with Y, but Y only wants to share a sexual relationship without getting involved in any commitment. In this situation, again it can be said that X is in the friend zone of Y. I guess that living in the ‘commitment mismatch’ type of Friend Zone is more painful than living in a normal Friend Zone. This is because when you are in the ‘commitment mismatch’ friend zone, you often end up thinking that you are being used. Coz let’s say it, physical pleasure is nothing without emotional connection.
How Does a Person Ends Up In Friend Zone?
Now that you fully understood the meaning of Friend Zone, it’s time for you to know about the causes that put a person in a Friend Zone. According to a Chicago Tribune writer, the Friend Zone can be an outcome of the following three cases:-
- Person A is not sufficiently attracted to person B.
- Person A misinterprets nonverbal cues from person B signalling their interest in deepening the relationship.
- There is a sexual repulsion. But this sexual repulsion is not enough to block the friendship.
Can You Move Out Of The Friend Zone?
Chances are there, but it is generally said that if you are once stuck in the friend zone, you are forever stuck there. But don’t we know that ‘the change is the only constant thing in the world?’ You never know when a change of heart will take place and you get a chance to magically move out of the Friend Zone. There are many ways by which you can move out of this Friend Zone but before attempting anything one should be mature enough to understand the fact, that the heart wants what it wants. Your actions might help you to move out of the Friend Zone, but there is no 100% guarantee for it.
Is It Healthy To Remain In A Friend Zone?
Is it healthy to remain in a friend zone? Well, there is no correct answer for this question. It is because my friend, it depends entirely on you. It won’t be wrong to say that people who stay in a Friend Zone are similar to one-sided lovers. I am comparing these terms because both of these people will eventually become sufferers. The ability to remain in a Friend Zone depends on your ability to suffer. The only positive thing about staying in a Friend Zone is, that both of you can remain friends but if you look at the negative side, you can find plenty of stuff. Your confidence level and self-esteem might go low, you can slip into depression, you will end up crying alone at night and many more stuff. I guess you now know about my views on this question.
What Do Famous People Say About Friend Zone?
Jeremy Nicholson in Psychology Today said that,
Another problem with the Friend Zone, specifically that a romantic pursuer, instead of being rejected up front, uses the ploy of friendly acts as a back door approach into a romantic relationship.
Marshall Fine of The Huffington Post said that,
Friend zone is like the penalty box of dating, when your only crime is not being buff and unobtainable.
Dating advisor, Ali Binazir said that,
Friend zone is a territory only to be rivalled in inhospitability by the Western Sahara, the Atacama, and Dante’s Ninth Circle Of Hell.
You can now say that you have studied about the meaning of Friend Zone from a three hundred and sixty degree angle. Now that you have read my post, I am assuming that you can now know whether you are in a Friend Zone or if someone is in your Friend Zone. It’s not only the meaning of Friend Zone you have learnt today because you have also learnt about the feelings related to Friend Zone. I have shown you both the positive and the negative aspects of staying in a Friend Zone. I have also given you a ray of hope but with a warning so that you know with what you are going to encounter.